Category : LifeStyle & Weddings

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 11 hours ago

Pulse opinion: On whether a married couple without kids should be considered family or not

Is it even a family if there are no kids? When I stumbled on the question above on idea-sharing platform, Quora, few days back, I was baffled that anyone would even ask that at all. I mean, in my mind, it was supposed to be a cut-and-dried thing that a family’s existence is independent of kids. Apparently not. So here we are, having to spell it out, and in clear terms, that a couple, especially when married, instantly becomes family. Whether or not they have kids cannot invalidate that. Family ties are actually created by marriage; not by the birth of kids. A couple, especially when married, instantly becomes family whether or not they have kids. (Romper) The moment two people take their marriage vows before God and man, their lives become merged so intimately and will remain...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 13 hours ago

This is how it feels to be with a partner who goes on and off

With inconsistent partners, gloriously affectionate moments are closely followed by dumbfounding acts of disappearance. One of the most gut-wrenching things that could ever happen to anyone is to have a partner who goes on and off; someone who is only consistent at being greatly inconsistent. Many people are familiar with this relationship struggle, just like this young woman here, who tells Pulse about how her relationship has so far been a nerve-racking cycle of disappearances and reappearances by her boyfriend. It must have been the same thing Simi was feeling when she composed her emotional song, “Gone For Good.” Inconsistently great With a partner that’s inconsistent, there are momentary flashes of all the beautiful things that you desire and treasure in a partner and in a relationship. They know how to give you that thrill that borders on drug-induced ecstasy, and this is not just in a sexual context....

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 15 hours ago

Why won’t my ex just stop texting me?

Have you ever been in a situation where you broke up with someone but the person refuses to go away? This is for you. With phone calls, texts and social media being readily-available tools for monitoring and staying in touch, it has never been easier for exes to keep tabs on partners that are meant to be in their past, partners they should be moving on from, rather than looking back upon. How and why your relationship ended would often play a role in an ex’ decision to regularly reach out after a relationship had ended. If your ex was the one who initiated the breakup in the first place but then decides to start texting you again out of the blue, it can be baffling. It can be baffling when a partner breaks up with you, and still reaches out incessantly [Credit - Shutterstock] But according to Psychologist, Samantha Rodman; “the likeliest possibility is that they are reflecting about the relationship and are...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 3 days ago

Why it's important to date someone whose sex drive matches yours

You want to avoid the disaster of being with someone not as sexually adventurous as you. There is an endless list of things that could put a strain on your relationship or marriage. From inconsistency to unmet relationship needs, to a lack of proper communication and an imbalance in sex drive, among many others. While the list above is not conclusive or absolute by any stretch of the imagination, it still contains some of the biggest and most problematic issues that couples and spouses have always had to grapple with. Chief among those issues, and most pertinent to this article, is the potential tragedy of being with someone whose sex drive does not match yours. You want to avoid the disaster of being with someone not as sexually adventurous as you. (Credit - Hillywood) Sex drive aka sexual desire aka libido is simply the urge to seek satisfaction of someone’s sexual needs. The need for sexual gratification...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 4 days ago

Relationship matchmaker, Olajide Tope says, men attract ladies with material things and still complain that ladies are materialistic

80% of men always complain that ladies date them because of material things. Despite being a Man, I would say it’s the Men’s fault, because we only use material things to attract the ladies. Hence the reason some broke men do not have the confidence to woo a lady because they believe, they do not have anything to offer a woman in a world where money and financial status is the key This begs the question, is money the only thing women need? But Men can still change the narrative by impressing ladies with their personalities, goals, mental acuity and ability instead of material things.Instead of telling her you can do heaven and earth, you have this and you have that, why not impress her with your personality, and see if you wouldn’t attract intelligent ladies that appreciate Men with values. Trust me there are ladies that wouldn’t listen to you if they perceived some iota of pride/show off in you. If you make money your centre of attraction, be ready to finish what you’ve started, you must provide the money forever. Do not...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 4 days ago

These are 5 top signs of fake love in a relationship

To really know that the love in your relationship is genuine or not, here are some of the signs to look out for. Is the love in your relationship real, or fake? If it is, all you should do is keep growing the love, keep staying truthful to each other, keep drinking a lot of water, and just keep treating each other in all the good ways that will allow the relationship thrive further. On the flipside, fake love is not something anyone would want to live with. Sadly, it is exactly what some people have in their relationships. If the relationship is based on anything different from a genuine willingness to see the other person flourish in every sense of the word, if it is based on something fleeting and temporary, then it is likely fake. To really know that the love in your relationship is fake, here are some things you may want to watch out for: 1. They’re emotionally distant...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 4 days ago

Here's an emotional story that captures the power of love in sickness and in health - it's so heartwarming!

When your legs don't work like they used to before... Isn’t it just so pleasant to be in love and to have the most amazing relationships/wedding? I mean, who doesn’t want fun trips, romantic dinners, deep conversations, mind-blowing sex and the amazing companionship that blossoms between two people after they understand each other’s beautiful souls? Who on earth does not want love like this? Never mind answering, I’ll do it myself. No one. Absolutely no one would say not to that. How about love in sickness? How many people would sign up for that? When his/her legs don't work like they used to before, would you still want to stick around to sweep them off their feet? If that your pretty partner’s face got burnt in a terrible accident, would she still remain beautiful to you? Would you still be...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 4 days ago

5 important conversations you shouldn't avoid in your relationship

Choosing not to talk about these things may be the beginning of the end for your relationship. It’s easy sometimes to just ignore certain issues in your relationship instead of facing them head-on and looking for ways to get solutions. If you are the type of partner who shies away from confrontations, you’ll be doing yourself no good by allowing far too many things slide without being addressed. If your partner suddenly starts showing traits and attitudes that are harmful to your relationship, it is really better to have a conversation about these things than ignore them and hope they’ll just go away like that. You can't wish these issues away. Especially if you regularly feel any of the five things listed below, then you really need to seek answers from that partner or watch your relationship slip out of your grip. These feelings and situations cannot be ignored:...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 5 days ago

Women like to demand total honesty from men at all times; but do they really need it?

'Even if it’s just sex he wants from me, he should say it from the onset.’ Can women really deal with this level of honesty without feeling some type of way? Either expressly stated or just simply presumed, women set a demand for men who would be forthright from the very beginning. You hear them say stuff like ‘even if it’s just sex he wants from me, I’d appreciate it if he says it from the onset.’ But the question is this: are women really ready for this level of honesty? Will you truly be cool with a guy meeting you from the very beginning and showing nothing but a desire in your body and the pleasures to be derived from that carnal attraction? Sarah, 26, says she prefers this truth as it helps her decide if she really wants to be with the guy like that or not. “I think I’ll appreciate the honesty,” she says. “I think I’ll prefer to know what I’m getting i...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 6 days ago

If she's been single for a long time, here's what to know before dating her

Five hitches you might encounter in a relationship with someone who has been single almost to stupor. Some ladies have become really familiar with the relative peace and quiet that comes with knowing how to be by one’s self and enjoying every moment of it. Better single than sorry is a very valid philosophy and to find women who shun societal and media pressures to wait for the perfect one is in itself a blessing. Obviously, however, there are always two sides to a coin and being in a relationship with such women could have it’s own little quirks. Here are five of the hitches you might encounter in a relationship with someone who was single for a long time before you came into the picture: 1. Time to adjust It’s only logical to give her time to adjust to being in a relationship and doing all the things people in relationships...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 6 days ago

It's Noble Igwe's 3rd wedding anniversary - and he's so, so mushy about it!

With love from Pulse Weddings, happy anniversary to Noble and Chioma, the love of his life! What do you do on the third anniversary of marrying the love of your life? Surely no one can possibly provide a better answer than fashion enthusiast and media entrepreneur, Noble Igwe, whose marriage with Chioma reaches the 3rd year mark; and is commemorating with by lighting up social media with one heart-warming story after another. Noble chronicles his love sojourn with his wife in detail, eliciting numerous heart-eyes with stories of his first contact with Chioma, all the sleek Naija-guy moves he had to pull to ensure that he entered the race for her heart; he links the plot to the legendary, viral love letter he wrote and shared on Twitter in 2011 and of course, there was a clincher of an anniversary post on Instagram. ALSO READ: Why you should never feel bad a...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 6 days ago

Dear Bukky: My boyfriend refuses to commit to me; but I still can't bring myself to leave him

I really love this guy even though I know he keeps other girls and discourages me from falling in love with him. Dear Bukky, I’m a 28-year-old graduate teacher. I have been dating a guy for about a year now. I knew him for a bit when we would just chat, nothing serious because he was dating someone at the time. Along the line, we became an item and agreed on keeping it coded. When he is with his girl, he won't call or text me. I became addicted to him. We have sex often. I tell him so many things about me. He is always there to listen to me whenever I want to talk to him and we have sex anytime I want. I called for a break up later because I saw the whole thing was all about sex. I stopped having sex with him for a while and I didn’t chat or call him but he wouldn’t let me rest. He eventually said his girlfriend had broken up with him and we became close again. He’s an undergraduate who does...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 1 week ago

5 relationship fears every single guy has

Here are some of the things guys hope to no when they start to fall in love or catch feelings. Almost every guy has some major fears when it comes to love, dating and committed relationships. These fears are normal, too. The fear of the unknown is a normal thing that everyone faces at one point or another in their lives, especially when a big step is about to be taken. So, don't be surprised to notice that eight out of every 10 guys have the following relationship fears... 1. Change Guys fear that being in a relationship will alter their lives, no matter how little. And frankly, let's face it, being in a relationship does change one's way of life on some grand level. Especially if it is a committed one. The fear of this change scares the hell out of several men....

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 1 week ago

5 relationship fears every single guy has before they fall in love

Here are some of the things guys hope to no when they start to fall in love or catch feelings. Almost every guy has some major fears when it comes to love, dating and committed relationships. And these fears are more apparent in guys who are still single, hoping to get into a relationship at some point. These fears are normal, too. The fear of the unknown is a normal thing that everyone faces at one point or another in their lives, especially when a big step is about to be taken. So, don't be surprised to notice that eight out of every 10 guys have the following relationship fears... 1. Change Guys fear that being in a relationship will alter their lives, no matter how little. And frankly, let's face it, being in a relationship does change one's way of life on some grand level. Especially if it is a committed one. The fear of...

Living / LifeStyle & Weddings - 1 week ago

Why you should never feel bad about your relationship standards, no matter how high they are

Do they say your standards are too high and unrealistic? You need not lower them, really. One of the most-commonly discussed relationship themes is the creation of standards and their validity. You know, all that talk about what you want in a partner, the values you shouldn't forgo and all the stuff [tangible and intangible] that a partner must surely possess before you consider them good enough for you. See, the whole point of setting these standards is to get for yourself what is best for you. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this. The expectations people have from relationships vary and these expectations need to be respected. Some guys cannot marry a lady that does not pray, some ladies will not look at you twice if you do not have a car, some people hold religion so dear that they wouldn’t even consider you if you do not belong to their religion. These rules and pedestals are personal and so far as you do not try to force it down the throat of...

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